…Right. This posting is not about myself. I might fall into one category or another, however, what I try to do here is to present the male readers with a few relationship statuses some women are in and how this influences them in having a chance to pursue them.
Disclaimer: I am not some expert in this field, so I don’t claim to own the absolute truth. Some of my opinions might apply while some won’t. If you feel offended, don’t read.
First thing first, let’s make one thing clear: some women still want / desire to be pursued à la carte by a gentlemen with care, consideration and respect, even if that relationship with you won’t lead necessarily to marriage.
The single lady
[I am using the term lady, because I want to clearly differentiate between the classy and the not-so-classy-with-a-hint-of-tramp type of women. So, to be clear, to be a lady refers for the purpose of my posting, a woman who knows what she wants in life and seeks to achieve it gracefully (i.e. be it a career, a relationship, etc.)]
The single lady is that woman who you think is willing to fool around in order to experiment with different male partners, until she decides on the one who might meet some of her standards (the reason we strive for the best and for perfection is in order to achieve at least something resembling to our expectations), and this is why you find her the most approachable from her kind. Oh, by the way, you’re right! (wink wink)
Going back to the point, the single lady will have time for you, so she’ll dedicate her afternoons and evenings, as well as the weekends for seeing you and getting to know you better. Some of the single ladies might even do this in parallel with several guys at a time, just because they can, so why the hell not?
She is willing to experiment, try, test and taste, switch, start and finish any relationship without any remorse. The single lady, will, at some point, meet you.
What do you do? You don’t need to invest too much effort into attracting her because she’ll either like you and give you a chance, or not. Because, once again, she can and will do this.
You might prove to be the one that she’s been looking for, so, after a period of dating you will end up moving together, then after a while, she’ll give you signs that she wants to be proposed, you’ll get married, you’ll born children and bam, you’ll die.
If I’d be a guy, a single lady won’t attract me much because I already know the end of that story.
The divorced lady
This type will be fun to be with. She already went thorough a relationship, so she knows the drill – as a result, she won’t try the marriage too soon. She’s not that young anymore (hopefully – unless she married too young and divorced too soon – case in which, give her some time to grow up) so she’ll know – at least out of the failed relationship, what works for a man and what doesn’t. She will probably give you more space, because her ex-husband complaint about her being too suffocating, she’ll probably be more active and fun in bed, because the jerk cheated on her with a more luscious woman (not necessarily a lady), she’ll cook for you because she learned how to it so far, and all in all, she will try to compensate all the draw-backs of her previous relationship, on your benefit. Congrats! You just hit the jackpot. Oh, almost forgot, she’ll probably be emotionally vulnerable, and maybe think that all men are pigs so she’ll try to use you in turn. Yeeeey! Good for you, lad!
What do you do? Be a man. Make her feel special by taking her out to elegant dinners, go with her in the weekends to a remote location, somewhere fancy, buy her some girly stuff (flowers, some nice wine, tickets to theatre or ballet, etc.). She’ll slowly recover from the pain of a failed relationship and she will start seeing the light at the other end of the tunnel. She will regain faith in men, eventually, and she’ll be grateful for that. She’ll see you like the prince in the shining armour.
You don’t need to marry her. She might not even need it, but you can stay very good friends forever. Good times, guaranteed, anyway!
The divorced with children lady
This one is tricky: she will either want you as her children’s father, because the bastard left with the high-school nanny, or she’ll just use you for meaningless sex in between laundries, taking kids to school, her yoga classes or her job. A thing is for sure, this lady is BUSY.
What do you do? If you wanted children without putting any effort into it (LOL), that’s your chance. Show her you like the child (children), spend time with them, advice them (but be careful not crossing any delicate line), help them with their math homework, be fathery in a word. Once you’ll become a part of the family, maybe, just maybe, the mother will have some time for you as well (it’s supposed you’re helping out with the chores around the house).
If you didn’t want children, then you either make it very clear towards her from the very start (she might not accept the idea, though) or you can go with the flow and see what happens. If she likes you enough, even if you’re not committed to any serious thing between you too, you might have big chances for becoming her new fun hobby – as in a hobby (not a passion) she might just get sick of you one day, and dump you. Well, you took that chance already, when, as an asshole, you told her that you only like her but not her kids (Careful with this!).
Don’t panic! Single moms are everywhere. Oh, right – if she, in turn makes it clear that she’s only is interested in meaningless sex for distressing purposes, then here you are, you got yourself a purpose in life: you can pursue other single moms in between your dates with this one, so, you’ll end up into being a sort of healer to them. Don’t tell me you didn’t want to become a hero one day!
To be continued (thought to myself: dinner is burning).